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Suggestions for dealing with
those temper tantrums.
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Coping With Temper Tantrums
By CJ Krebs
All parents with children have either
experienced it or will experience it sooner than they think.
Tantrums! Every parent has had those little humungous moments when
their child screams, kicks, or even drops to the floor.
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what I'm talking about. This usually happens when a child is upset
or angry and doesn't exactly know how to say so. You can help teach
your child better ways to express these feelings as they get older.
So, do you give in to these little
tantrums? What about еда на месяц when you are in public and are
embarrassed? The answer is "No." No matter what the
situation may be, never give into a tantrum. If you do, your
child will learn that tantrums work like a charm and continue to exercise
them out whenever and where ever. If you make a promise to buy them
something if they be quiet, you are watering the seed that makes these
tantrums sprout. Therefore, your child has learned how to push your
buttons. You must stand your ground and not give in, even if you
have to leave the scene.
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Here are some ways to help prevent a
tantrum. You can't prevent all problems, but you can keep some from
developing beforehand.
- Talk to your child about changes in
daily routines. If you will be going shopping tomorrow, tell
them. That way they will know that they will be missing
"Blues Clues" earlier, and maybe you can record it for them.
- Tell your child what you expect from
them before you enter a public place.
- Warn them ahead of time of changes in
activities or interruptions. Before it is bedtime, tell
her about 15 mins. ahead of time that it will soon be bedtime and she
may play for a few more minutes.
- Be sensitive to your child. If you
go to someone else's birthday party, make sure to spend extra time
with your child.
- Plenty of rest rest-assures not so
cranky kids. A tired child is more likely to throw a tantrum
quicker than a rested child would think about it.
- Exercise that energy off. Dancing,
jumping, running, etc., can help burn off all that extra energy.
You wouldn't want them to use all that extra energy on a tantrum
instead.
So, you've got a little humungous tantrum
on your hands. It snuck up behind you and there it is. Now
what? Well, here are some little tips that might help out during
those little unexpected moments.
- What ever you do, "Stay Calm."
- Try not to respond or show any emotional
expressions.
- If you have to, hold your child to
prevent them from hurting themselves or others. Let them know,
in a calm tone, that you won't let them hurt themselves or others.
- If you are in a public place, carry your
child out to the car or in a private place. Make certain to tell
them that you will not go back inside until they calm down. If
they don't calm down, drive home. Sometimes you have to run
errands another time to ensure that your child knows you mean what you
say and say what you mean.
- If you are at home, leave the room for a
few minutes but stay where you can hear them. (As long as they
are not hurting themselves). If you prefer, just turn away
instead of leaving the room.
- Use a "time out" if necessary.
Only allow your child to stay in time out a minute per age (If they
are 3, then they get 3 minutes). Make certain to calmly explain
to your child that they can come out if they calm down. If they
refuse, explain to them that the time out period starts over again.
- Suggest a way your child can calm
themselves. Ex: I know you are really angry that it is almost
time for bed. Maybe we can read a book before bedtime starts.
Your pick tonight!
Above all, always remember:
Never give in to tantrums!
About the Author
CJ Krebs, proud mother of four children,
who writes short parenting articles and bible studies for Sheeze
© 2002 CJ Krebs
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